Singledom - Hear how Die Alone With Me started

 How do I manage my singledomness?

Check out my stint as a guest on Queer Onda El Paso's podcast:
Ep. 29 - Party of One

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Getting Out - Ex-A-Sketch

Back in May, muh DAB, Dennis Hensley, invited me to join him for XX-A-Sketch, a drink & draw kinda thing at The Bullet bar in Burbank.  You know my instinct was to say, "No, thank you, I think I'm separating laundry and matching socks that afternoon."  I fought it because I know, that if I'm claiming that I'm open to finding/being in a relationship, I have to GET OUT.  I'll admit that the idea of staring at a scantily clad fella for a few hours was a big factor in my saying yes.  Also, I'm thanking Dennis, right here and now, for finding all of these great activities that aren't run of the mill get out of the house stuff and inviting me!  

So, we get there and we're joined by our friend, Ron.  They have supplies there for sketching/drawing our tasty model, but Dennis had gone ahead and brought some of his own materials.

It was a lovely afternoon, the bar was occupied by a good number of potential targets, and the staff was nice, friendly and cuh-ute!

There were a few fellas there I had torrid affairs with in my mind, or simply thought, he looks nice and I'd like to be neked with him.

Then, our model stepped out.  He started out with fun bunny ears on, because it was so close to Easter.  When those came off, he still had this cool, retro vibe about him that I was digging, quite groovily.

Did I mention I'm not much of an artist when it comes to drawing/sketching?  My eyes were so full of man, I didn't know where to start.  I tried starting at the top, with the idea of working my way down.  I didn't stop to correct stuff; I just kept going. When I got this far, I realized I'd make the worst police sketch artist in the world.  Based on my sketch of this guy's face, a number of innocent Latino men would be spending a lot of time in line-ups because this looks nothing like the model, but, admittedly, if WIERD SCIENCE was real, I'd pop my sketch right in there along with a body shot of Joe Manganiello.

Before I could start drawing my way down to his neck & chest, the model changed positions.  I was a bit thrown off.  I didn't realize I would have just a few short minutes to sketch the model in the position he was in.  Sure, when I thought about it, it made sense that they wouldn't make this guy stay in the same position for hours, while we sketched, sipped and flirted.  That'd be so painful for him!  So, I had to adjust my artistic expectations and get into quick sketch mode and attempt a full-body drawing.

I got so into the drawing rapidly, that I almost forgot to keep an eye out for future husbands amongst the shifting crowd. ...Almost.  I'm fairly talented when it comes to scoping the guys.  For example, I'd totally let this guy make me an omelet.

I felt like I let myself get too distracted, because before I knew it, our guy was in a new position!

I tried to concentrate. I thought I would make proportion my main priority and let details fall to the wayside.  That is until I let myself get distracted by the staff.  I don't know why it is, but I've always had a thing for bartenders and waiters.  I think it's the wonderful idea of a hot, sexy man, bringing me food in bed. ...Naked.

Anyway, the afternoon slipped into night and before I knew it, our time with the hot retro-vibe model man was done.  Turns out, I had a great time.  I didn't even get close to meeting anyone for romantical exploration, but I got to hang out with Dennis & Ron, feast my eyes on tasty mens and exercise my slight drawing muscles for a few hours. Granted, my sketches wouldn't be hung up at a Tate Gallery (Maybe a T'aint Gallery), but that's not what the exercise was about for me.  However, if you wish to purchase my sketches for a moderate fortune, here is a sample of the goods.  Oh, yes, of course I'll sign these before sending them to you!

(At least the face is a little closer to looking like his.  I'n't it?)

So, if you're dying alone, but feel like you're open to not, please, take every opportunity to get out, be among people and take your chances at meeting your future partner.  At the very least, cherish you time with friends and hot guys.

I thank our model, Brandon, very much for his modeling (Don't worry, I tipped via Venmo the day of) and leave you with two more lovely poses from him.

GET OUT!

Drag Season Approaches - Chico's Angels 2026

 

With a new year comes new plans for same old drag!
I mean that with love!  My 2026 is already chock full of tucked nuts!
March we have the return of Chico's Angels 3: Chicas in Chains!

June we have the return of Chico's Angels 2: Love Boat Chicas!

August, we have a new Frieda Laye show planned, Satan's School for Showgirls!

December, we have the return of Feliz NaviDivas!

Meanwhile, Reba Areba should have a Mismatch Game or 2 to do (Hopefully) and if they'll have her back, a Best In Drag Show in October!

All that and whatever else pops up!  I had another project in mind, but I don't know if I have the time and energy to do another project, but we'll see where the year takes me in my pantyhose.

For now, it's writing and rehearsal.  We gotta start getting CA3 back on its high-heeled feet, which includes finding another hunk.  We lost our returning hunk from the June 2025 run, Joe Piccuirro, due to a scheduling conflict.  

He's about to flex, not slug me!

If you know any young-ish hunky guys (to play a high schooler) who wanna act and have fun on stage with three aging drag queens, send him our way!  We don't want him too young, though, we have considered how creepy THAT scenario would be!

Well, I gotta go start researching ways to make character shoes look like high heels...
Until then, you can get tickets to Chico's Angels 3 at kaysedia.com starting February 4.

Getting Out _ Bear Soup

 My Update continues...

As you know, if you're dying alone and you're open to, maybe, not dying alone, it's important to get out!
So, back in April, when muh DAB, Dennis Hensley asked if I wanted to go to a pool party/video release party hosted by our friend, Tom Goss, I said, "Fuck Yeah!"  (Even though, I was looking forward sitting at home alone, working on my fabulous Easter Bonnet.)  I'm glad I did! It was a fun time!

You remember my friend, Tom Goss, don't you?  He makes music and like bear guys!

Tom Goss

Well, Tom had recently made a video for his song, BEAR SOUP and he threw a release party in the same setting that the video was shot, a big back yard with a fabulous swimming pool. He sported his video caftan,

while the other guys, mostly bears, wore the usual swim party attire.

There were yummy food snacks, socializing and most importantly, swimming!

Tom mixed around with all the party folk, 

while I stuck mostly with Dennis, because I didn't know many people there.  I remember thinking to myself that I SHOULD know more people there.

I remember thinking that while we were sitting in the hot tub...

"I SHOULD know more of the people here!" I thought very loudly.

Actually, some hottie that I am acquainted with (not pictured) showed some interest in me and I jumped at the chance of creating some more steam outside of the hot tub.  There was some smooching happening, little grabs here & there and then we made a plan.  We would sneak away after the viewing of the video premiere!   That would be a few hours later...

Speaking of later, my friend and sometimes castmate, Thomas Colby, showed up.

You remember him! We did the stunts in the reading of MOMMIE DEAREST for Sean Abley's Life Cycle fundraiser!

Remember?  We were stunt Christina & stunt Joan!

With Thomas there, I had another friendly face to socialize with as we waited for the premiere to screen, after the sun went down.  So evening hit and the video was shown.  Apparently, the sun wasn't the only thing to go down.  So did the other guy's interest in hooking up.  I don't know what happened, but there we were.  If this hurt more than it did this would be a "This Is Why I'm Single" entry. 

Thomas REALLY liked the video

 Alas, the evening ended, we said our goodnights and I went home; Alone, Disappointed, but otherwise satisfied from a fun day in the sun with friends, hot guys and snacks.  

Mostly, I was happy for Tom and excited to celebrate his birthing another delightful creation.
I admire his artistry and consistency in producing new works and moving forward, every day! Congratulations, Tom!

Check out the Video HERE

Gay of a Certain Age - Craft Night 2025

 One of my favorite nights of the year is Craft Night! That's the night I have friends over to craft Valentine's Day cards.  I, of course, make cards for no one in particular while others make them for loved ones or other occasions, like birthdays or funerals.  It's a time to see people I haven't seen in a while, or favorites I get to hang out with.  Truth be told, sometimes I have so many people over that I don't get to craft or chat because I'm too busy making sure people are happy with food & drink and have a place to sit. Either way, it's always a fun time and I love it.  I even enjoy the two or three days after that it takes to clean up!

I put out all the materials and tell guests all they need to bring is their imagination.   I'm not sure exactly when it happened, but one year some dear friends brought a stack of porn magazines (some really great vintage offerings in there, too) and the cards started taking on a more adult tone than the ones we're used to exchanging in grade school.

Here are some of 2025's cards...

I'm not sure who made this one,

but I totally appreciate the nod to our dearly departed Leslie Jordan!

This is one of my horror cards that came out of my not knowing what to do with

my shark jumping a rainbow sticker.

Oh, this is nice.

I made this?

Gosh, that's sweet.

THAT'S more like it!

I like nuts!

I actually hoped to have occasion to give these to someone.

Sure, making cards is fun

But, for me, a real highlight is taking pics in the photobooth that pops up in my bedroom!

...And one to cap off the evening

I enjoy doing this every year, and every year regret missing those who couldn't make it (I even made it more like an open house from 4-10+ so that more people can make it), but honestly, until I get a bigger place, I'll just have to enjoy the faces that show up and dream of expanding my invite list.

As a Gay of a Certain Age, I know how important it is to cherish those who surround you with love and pornographic valentines.  Even though I'm single, I rarely feel alone on Valentine's Day.  Thanks guys!

(Some of) The 2025 Craft Night Gang