Thursday, February 26, 2015

This Is Why I Am Single

I am an actor, in addition to my 9 to 5 job.  I've been doing a show since 2003 in which I play a female character.  I play the part in drag.  Apparently, that makes me a Drag Queen.  I've come to terms with the label, since it is the easiest one to carry, because people don't understand when you say "actor" and they see this- a guy in a dress playing a woman.
 I have no problem with  drag queens, I just don't think I fulfill the requirements or earned the title (and if you look closer at my make-up you most probably would think, 'Yeah, NO').

This is why I am single- You tell a guy you're interested in that you do a show in drag and 80% of the time they'll roll their eyes and dismiss you as a drama queen, whose bedroom is all done up in lace, with a big sequined sign that says "You Go, Gurl" over the bed. (Not that there's anything wrong with that, but my bedroom is disappointingly lacking in any style.) So, I've learned to either save that nugget 'til later on, or use it to judge an iffy character right on the spot.  Really, who wants to date someone with masculinity issues so severe that the sight of a stray fake eyelash would turn them into Robert Duvall in THE GREAT SANTINI- hyper macho,aggressively competitive, frustrated and always seeking Daddy's approval?

I'm not going to stop doing a show I really enjoy performing in, just because it makes me unattractive to some guys.


  1. New reader here. You can blame Kenneth in the (212)!!
    Gender illusion can be confusing for some. Divine always considered himself an actor who mostly played female roles. You're in good company!
    Looking forward to reading more!

    1. Welcome & Thank you, JimmyD!
      I love Kenneth in the (212)! In fact, I asked his advice before starting this (it's not a) blog, and he said "DON'T"! I'm kidding. He is very supportive.

  2. The word 'blog' is in the URL... there. I said it. I adore Kenneth... sometimes... a little too much. He is sweet.

  3. Some of the butchest men I've known were drag queens/female impersonators. Hurricane Sommers in Louisville at The Connection La Boy Le Femme show comes to mind. I understand Dan Savage used to wear women's clothes for the stage. Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke, right?.