When I visit this site, which is usually only when I get a message from someone or the Cupidbot sends me a notice that someone likes me, I try to do it with an open mind. I know I can be very judgmental. I kept that in mind when I was creating my profile. Instead of saying what I didn't want, I put up things I wanted, then lay little tests that would let me know if a responder "got" me or not; like my posting of a Kids in the Hall monologue for "What I Often Think about". Anyway, I really get bugged by some profiles that immediately put me on edge. Like this one:
(Click the pic, read for yourself)
I look at the profile pic and think, "My, this is a handsome fellow. I wouldn't mind sharing a malted with him at the local five and dime." Then I'm immediately turned off by the following;
1: WeHo/Chealsea, you are simply not my jam.
WTF? I'm already disqualified because of my address?Or is he one of those idiots that lumps everybody into one category because he finds the behavior of some people from the same area distasteful?
Yes, everybody in this 1.3 mile area acts exactly the same way and should automatically be
dismissed. Besides, Chelsea isn't even Chelsea anymore, what with 8th avenue
invaded by banks, nail salons and drugstores & G Lounge closing along with mostly all the
others... This ass has the nerve to bundle me in with whatever stereotype he has in his douchey
mind without having even met me and that bugs me!
2: "Oh and girl, please put a shirt on unless you're at the beach. My personal value does not
rely on my physical currency"
Fortunately, you can not hear me screaming like a rhino that has stubbed his toe on an arrant
coffee table in the savanna. First of all, the use of "Oh and girl..." sounds a lot like
WeHo/Chelsea stereotype that is not his jam, so he suffers from self-hate. Got it. Next, more
judgement on the guys who work out and like to show off and, perhaps give the impression that
their physical beauty is all they have to offer. Listen, I very much enjoy seeing hot shirtless
mens flaunting their pectacular torsos and may even get down right giddy if I were to receive
attention from one of them, but still, ultimately, I'd have to consider if they have intelligence
and personality to go along with it. I certainly wouldn't attempt to shame them in my dating
profile. Also, I caught the switch half way through that critical comment. We start out talking
about "those" people, then suddenly we are talking about him. That statement should either
read, "... please put a shirt on unless you're at the beach. I hope your personal value does not
rely on your physical currency" or "...I'll keep a shirt on unless I'm at the beach. My personal
value does not rely on my physical currency". Either he's saying he does not care for the flaunty
guys or that he is not a flaunty guy. When you smash them together like that, you get more of
the self hate.
3: "I excel at connecting with people..."
Finally, I get a chuckle. Seriously, he's going to start his profile by shutting down people in
back to back paragraphs and then say he excels at CONNECTING with people?? This is the
worst part; I get the impression that he doesn't really know himself- at least not as much as he
Despite immediate impressions, this post is not written to simply blast this guy, it's to say that I wish I could go on to a dating site and read a profile without feeling attacked. It's hard enough to get the rejection after approaching someone, but to get rejected by simply reading their profile is just disturbing. I feel like I'm being pushed aside on my own screen! Luckily, I've been watching CRIMINAL MINDS for over a decade, so I know and understand human behavior. I can suss out, that the matter here is not with me, but with him. It's all about him.