Thursday, March 19, 2015
FU Cupid - The Sites
I currently have a profile up on OkCupid. I think it might be a little too quirky, but it's honest.
I might worry that I'll scare guys off with my Kids In The Hall quote for the I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT... section. I think it's hilarious, but I suppose most guys are convinced I'm psychotically obsessed with some ex-lover named, Tony. One very young would-be suitor sent me a message asking who Tony was. I replied "We're all Tony" and got no response. Sure, I'm scaring off millions of would-be suitors who don't get it, but think of the connection I'll probably have with the few that do get it and respond! ...the very few. ..the none, yet.
The fact that my entire profile is some kind of test is a This Is Why I Am Single entry for later. I'm here to bitch about the dating sites themselves. My first target is OkCupid- Ugh! I'm not a fan of on-line dating because I'm not into catalog shopping. You know, you see the picture, you order it and when it arrives, it's nothing like the picture! It's not the right size! It's broken! It took weeks to arrive! COD! I much prefer window shopping. You see it from the street, you go in, you check it out and then decide if you want to take it home. No muss, no fuss.
I was encouraged by OkCupid because of the compatibility questions. What a great idea; a series of general questions where you compare your answers with the answers of possible boyfriends! I went nutsy answering a crap-load of them, (775 of them to be precise)! I figured the more information, the better! Imagine finding the guy that answered all 775 questions the same way I did! What a match! The site takes these answers and matches them up with everyone else, so when you look at their profile, it automatically tells you the percentages of your compatibility- "Daniel Craig is 99% your Match; 1% your enemy" (The 1% difference is we disagree on favorite Bonds- he likes Roger Moore!). Not only do you answer your questions, you rate how important the answer is to you; "A little, somewhat, Very" as well as answers you'll accept; "Yes, no, Any of the above" to further help the analytics match you up! Very scientific for a site named after a Roman myth! This is going to rock!
Then, I started reading and comparing answers. The guys I thought were hot and compatible, turned out, not so much. The way they answered their questions started upsetting me. My Judge Judy response was on high! "How can you love dogs but not accept that I love dogs AND cats? How could it be THAT important to you?", "You think the Adam and Eve story should be taught along side Evolution? But your eyes are so gorgeous!","You're Republican?? But you said 9 TO 5 was your favorite movie!", "You're unsure if you enjoy dark, violent, or disturbing music, but you won't accept if I do when I'm in the mood? But your pecs are so big!"
I soon felt that the questions I answered were just 775 opportunities to think these guys are assholes before I even meet them! God only knows what they thought of me! I looked closer at some of the answers, what they are willing to accept and concluded that if one does not take time to read the instructions, it's easy to mess up the whole thing. If it doesn't make sense that someone is ambivalent about a subject, but is so strongly opposed to your answer, they probably didn't click the right box. It's all too detailed and delicate. So now, I can't pay too much attention to the % of compatibility because I know they are wonky and the only information I can truly use to determine whether someone is my potential boyfriend is by the information they provide in their profile. Just like every other site. So, FU, Cupid! You're not so special!
And don't get me started on the questions that ask if you would ever be friends with a homosexual, or if you would ever date someone with a gay brother! Would it kill a Roman God to, at least, figure the compatibility of their questions to their clients? Fuckin' Cupid.
P.S. The above photo is my catalog shot- it is untouched. I look like that, but I don't LOOK like that, you know?